You Saw That Coming

Betrayal

According to definition, betrayal is characterized as disloyal, unfaithful or to reveal or disclose. Throughout the history of mankind, the one undeniable trait that is always present is betrayal. Despite over 2000 years of Christianity, acts of betrayal are still far more evident than acts of unconditional love.

As a leader, this is one of those behaviors that you know is going to occur and an issue that you want to avoid. How do you minimize the potential for betrayal?

First, you never accept caveats, cheating or lying and you never engage in those activities. You are constantly being observed, so you always need to set appropriate examples. If you dress casually for work, so will those around you. If you single out someone to have a little fun at their expense, more of that kind of behavior will follow. What you do will be mimicked because you are the leader.

Second, you clearly define the line between workplace activities and social activities. This doesn’t mean you make the work environment dull and uninviting. Quite the contrary; you want work to be meaningful and enjoyable. It does mean that you know when issues are work related versus personal. You do not get involved with personal issues; instead you make sure that person gets professional counseling. You’ll always be vulnerable to betrayal if you start your version of a counseling program.

Third, be accountable and always accept responsibility when things go wrong. Even though the people you trusted may have been irresponsible, you are still the recognized leader. If you try to blame others to avoid any “blowback” on your reputation, you can most certainly expect that one or more persons are now ready to betray you.

One final thought about lying. It is never acceptable and it will always lead to your demise. If you were a professional athlete who used steroids or HGH to enhance your performance, then just say “Yes, I did it.” In sports where those substances have been banned, you lose your medals or trophies but you keep your dignity. In sports where those substances have not been banned, what’s the point of lying? People are not stupid – you as a professional athlete performed at an unnaturally high level and as a result, there had to be answer beyond athleticism.

Being a leader is a tough job and not everyone qualifies. That’s why good leaders are special and hard to find.

FYI

(1) An Opinion Research survey of 1198 workers about the top workplace frustrations revealed:

17% felt frustrated about poor communication by senior management about the business;

16% felt frustrated about general office politics; and

15% felt frustrated about the lack of teamwork

Three reasons account for nearly half of workplace frustrations. It would seem reasonable that organizations could successfully address these issues and create a stronger work environment.

(2) “First, say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do.” -- Epictetus

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